The other day as I was leaving a restaurant parking lot, I drove by a couple who were obviously arguing. As I got closer I could read her lips as she said let go of me and saw he was holding onto her arm very tight. My thought at the moment was this not how to get back to get with your ex if you are separated. As I pulled up I rolled my window down to make sure everything was okay, to which the man responded, "Mind your own business, this is my wife." And suddenly I saw strike number two. My guess is one more strike and then he is out with no chance to get back together with his mate.
See one of the things that has to happen if you want to get with an ex back, is that you have to be willing to let go in the first place. Unfortunately, our natural tendency is to hang on tighter and tighter. And the more they try to get away, the more we try to hang on. The problem is that one action forces the other action and the whole exchange itself lends to keeping couples apart. It doesn't help them to get back together.
If you want to get back together with your ex you have to go against the norm. You need to think outside of the box. Here is one way to do this. If your mate wants to break-up with you, agree to the separation. Tell him or her that you think they are right and you've been wanting some time for yourself anyway.
Now right off the bat I know that sounds wacky but think about it for a moment. What do you think is going through the other person's mind? Do you think they are jumping for joy and shouting to the roof tops? C'mon, you know that's not the case because if a real desire to end the relationship existed, it would have happened long before with many tall tale signs to show it. No, what you just did was catch them off guard, capture their attention, and have them not just stop dead in their tracks but take a step back in the process. At this moment, you just had them question their decision to break up with you.
Okay, now don't go and think that this is the end of the game plan, that he or she will just automatically jump back in your arms or drop to their knees asking for you to take them back. That won't happen...okay, maybe in a 1 in 50,000 shot it might but for the most part all you did was bait the hook. That's a good thing. Now play with the fish for a while and let's wait till they bite.
See from here, you get to do some alone time again and truthfully, we all NEED alone time. This helps to remind us who we are, keep us on track, and make sure we are taking care of ourselves. So with this time, hang out with friends, take up the hobby you've always wanted, learn something new, get to the gym if you don't already. Work on having fun and improving you. (That should happen no matter whether you're single or in a relationship anyway.)
Eventually at some point you and your ex will meet again either hanging out with friends, run into each other at a restaurant, or he or she might even give you a call to get together. (It usually happens in 2 to 4 weeks). This is when you play it cool. Let the new improved you shine. That will definitely capture your ex's attention and most likely several other's attention as well. Plus, that is another step in how you get back together with your ex.
Several other events will happen to bring your ex back into your life for one reason or another. Be sure to always play it cool in every one of those occasions. Be sure to continue working on yourself, to have fun, learn and grow.
A time will come when you'll find that hey you really want to be with that person and the other person will find they want to be with you. Or quite possibly, they person wasn't meant for you in the first place. But the good news is now you can get back together with your ex if you want to...or not. This time the option is yours.
To your lasting love success,
Jo Chris
